Screen Time and Parent-Child Interaction

Though we’ve been living in a world of digital communication, engaging in way more online interactions than the previous generation, it is important to pay attention to the amount and quality of screen time our children are allowed to use in any given day.

Watching shows and movies, whether for school-related or entertainment purposes, should be determined and agreed upon by both adults and children, so that there is a time to turn on and a time to turn off.

Due to the fact that video calls are the new normal for social interaction, this amount of screen time needs to be taken into account as well. Any screen time should be purposeful and meaningful, not random and passive.

Parents need to monitor how much, how long and what their children are watching on screens. The ideal would be for parents or caregivers to sit with children ages five and under, or at least be within earshot, so that they can discuss and reinforce concepts being presented on the screen.

Older children may not need parents to sit with them but they would benefit from parental monitoring and discussion of shows they are watching and video games that they are playing.

Watching TV should not be the default for when there seems to be nothing to do. Drawing or colouring while listening to music, or reading a book or magazine, also provide very pleasant ways to pass the time.

An important note to remember here is that children model the behaviour of the adults around them. They are less likely to do what you tell them to do and more likely to imitate what you do. So if an adult in the home is spending all day glued to the screen of their phone or tablet, the child will see this as a desirable activity and want to do the same. Modeling positive and constructive behaviour can go a long way in helping children to develop desired behaviours.

This stay-at-home regulation has provided an ideal opportunity for parents to help their children develop their self-discipline and self-confidence by learning to manage their chores, their learning and their entertainment activities.

The most important thing that parents and other caregivers can provide for their children is a feeling of safety and security that comes with unconditional love and support. This can be demonstrated by maintaining a connection with each child which is fostered by listening (without criticism or judgment) to their thoughts, concerns, apprehensions, desires, and talking to them in an empathic, supportive and caring manner. Tuning in to their moods and allowing them to express their emotions, whether negative or positive, and also whether the listening adult agrees with them or not, will help them significantly to feel more secure and truly cared for.

Lystra Mahabir-Mongroo , Self-Care Psychotherapy & Counselling Services

B.A./B.S.W., M.S.W., EMDR II, C.Hyp.